First availability: 12 November
Cynthia Oppelaar
From insight to real change
HAARLEM, JanswegLet’s explore the stress and survival patterns that once helped you and are now really getting in your way. Your brain is smart and your body is wise. When the two understand each other again, you take back control of your life.
About me
Your brain is smart and your body is wise. When the two understand each other again, you take back control of your life.
Do you feel wired all the time? Tension in your shoulders, neck or jaw? Do you drag yourself to work, then crash the moment you get home? You know healthy food and exercise are good for you, but that’s exactly what you skip because you’ve got nothing left? Do you spend whole weekends scrolling on the sofa? Lots of headaches or stomach issues? Procrastinating? Do you always say yes, while deep down you’d sometimes love to say no? Do you feel stuck in your job or your life? Does everything always end up on your shoulders? Do you feel unseen? Unheard? Misunderstood? Unappreciated? Overstretched?
And are you totally fed up?
Then let’s explore together which patterns keep all this going and how you can take back control. For me, healing isn’t just about coping with trauma, pain, anxiety or depression; you’ve already proven you can do that. The real goal is to feel connected again and to let happiness, joy and lightness back into your life.Talking therapy or coaching often gives you valuable insight, but insight alone usually isn’t enough to really change patterns. That’s because these are stress or survival patterns that play out between your thoughts, your behaviour, your nervous system and what you feel in your body. And in your relationships: with yourself, with others and with the world. Patterns you once needed to keep going, but that now get in your way.
Somatic psychotherapy works on all of these levels at once. Instead of talking about a pattern, we explore how it shows up right now: in your body (and yes, your head is part of that), your behaviour and your relationships. That opens up space to not just understand, but to actually feel in your body that things can be different. Your head is smart and your body is wise. When both get to join in, you’ll get there.
My name is Cynthia Oppelaar. I offer somatic psychotherapy based on NARM, Somatic Experiencing, Polyvagal Theory and Systemic Work, and I specialise in stress, burnout and trauma. I work a lot with highly educated professionals, people in leadership roles, entrepreneurs and business students. And with Indos (Dutch-Indonesians); I’m a third-generation Indo myself.
My passion comes from being curious about who we really are: relational beings. And how it’s possible that in this part of the world we strive for exactly the opposite: independence and self-reliance. Stress, burnout and trauma play a big role in that tension, often with (usually vague) physical symptoms. What inspires me in this work is our human capacity to grow and transform. It’s still special every time to see how people, with the right tools and support, take charge of their own lives again. And what beautiful things they make of it.
Book a free introductory call or book an intake session straight away.
You can find my rates and all reimbursement options here (page in Dutch): https://www.soulstice.nl/werkwijze/tarieven/
Complaints
- Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- Stress
- Addiction
- Attachment trauma
- Bore-out
- Burn-out
- Chronic fatigue
- Depressive complaints
- Fatigue
- Fear of failure
- Lack of purpose
- Medically Unexplained Physical Symptoms (MUPS)
- Panic attacks
- Psychological complaints
- Relationship problems
- Restlessness
- Trauma
Treatment methods
- Burn-out coaching
- NARM
- Somatic experiencing
- Body-oriented psychotherapy
- Executive coaching
- Family Constellations
- Leadership coaching
- Life coaching
- NLP - Neuro-Linguistic Programming
- Psychosocial therapy
- Systemic coaching
Practical information
Education
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Opleiding NARM therapist® (NeuroAffective Relational Model) bij BodyMind Opleidingen door Michael Mokrus
Groesbeek - 2026
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Verdiepingsworkshop De polyvagaaltheorie in therapie door Deb Dana
online - 2025
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Training Essential Strategies for Healing Sexual Abuse and Sexuality Trauma (Somatic Experiencing®) bij BodyMind Opleidingen door Ariel Giarretto
Groesbeek - 2023
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Opleiding Somatic Experiencing practitioner® bij BodyMind Opleidingen
Groesbeek - 2022
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Workshop De polyvagaaltheorie in therapie door Deb Dana
online - 2021
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Opleiding Professionele begeleiding van organisaties (PBO) bij Phoenix Opleidingen (systemisch werk in organisaties – organisatieopstellingen)
Utrecht - 2019
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Workshop Relational & Attachment Trauma and Somatic Experiencing® door Dave Berger
Leuven - 2019
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Workshop Systemic Ritual door Daan van Kampenhout
Limmen - 2018
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Workshop Systemische kijk op ziektebeelden door Stephan Hausner
Limmen - 2017
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Opleiding Psychosociale Basiskennis (PSBK volgens de Plato eindtermen) bij Con Amore
Utrecht - 2016
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Opleiding Systemisch werk bij Phoenix Opleidingen
Utrecht - 2013
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Jaartraject voor certificering als NLP coach bij NTI-NLP
Limmen - 2012
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Opleiding NLP Master Practitioner bij NTI-NLP
Limmen - 2011
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Opleiding Persoonlijk begeleider / Coach bij NTI-NLP
Limmen - 2011
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Training Coachingsvaardigheden bij Atos Career Desk Academy
Utrecht - 2011
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Opleiding NLP Practitioner bij NTI-NLP
Limmen - 2010
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Workshop Bonding & Attachment door Thomas Harms en Johannes B. Schmidt
Limmen - 2010
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Opleiding Deep Change (lichaamsgericht traumawerk gebaseerd op o.a. Somatic Experiencing® en NARM®) door Johannes B. Schmidt en Andrea Wandel
Limmen - 2009
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Workshop Oplossingsgericht Werken door Arnoud Huibers
Limmen - 2009
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Organisatie- en veranderkunde aan de faculteit Bedrijfskunde van de Erasmus Universiteit Rotterdam
Rotterdam - 2005
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International Business and Languages aan de Hogeschool voor Economische Studies in Rotterdam en Institut International de Commerce et Distribution in Parijs
Rotterdam - 1999
Soulstice | Cynergy
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Accepting new clients
In de prakijk | In person session
Opening hours
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Jansweg 40
2011 KN HAARLEM -
Wheelchair accessible
Online sessie | Online session
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